Masturbation is normal
Masturbating is normal. Did you masturbate recently? You’re not the only one. Most of us masturbate on a more or less regular basis. There are a lot of common terms used for masturbation: jerking off, wanking, finger fucking, treating yourself, spanking the monkey, etc. There are also a number of ways to masturbate.
The most common way is to use your fingers or hand. Different objects around the house can also be used, such as a shower head or pillow, for example.
Belladot’s sex toys have been carefully tested so that they are safe to use and provide maximum stimulation.
For women there are a number of dildos and vibrators to choose from. For example, Belladot Bodil stimulates both the G-spot and the A-spot, Belladot Greta is small and conveniently handy, and Belladot Vilma stimulates both the G-spot and the clitoris at the same time.
All three are waterproof, and you can take them in the shower. Find more products under “Toys” on our website.
You’re probably aware of the fact that it’s important to listen to your body and its signals to avoid things like stress. Masturbation and orgasm is a great way to relax yourself. It releases hormones that make you feel good. Some say it even boosts your memory and ability to concentrate. It can also have a reducing effect on anxiety and stress. This is true of sex in general, but the good thing about masturbation is that you can decide when and where you want to do it.
Having well-trained pelvic muscles enhances your libido and can give you stronger orgasms. The Britt pelvic trainer from Belladot helps you find the right muscles, and can also help you get a better masturbation experience.
Read more about training those muscle groups under the topic “Incontinence for women – train your pelvic muscles”.
Masturbating together with, or in front of your partner is an excellent way to get to know each other’s bodies and find out what turns you on. It’s also a great way to have sex together if you aren’t able to have intercourse for some reason.
Research has shown that people who have their first orgasm from masturbation have better sex in a couple situation. Those who masturbate on a regular basis keep their lust for sex later in life, and they also keep the desire alive even when they don’t have a partner.
Feeling horny, masturbating and enjoying sex without shame is everybody’s right. Even so, there are a lot of taboos around satisfying yourself sexually. Why do so many of us feel it’s hard to talk about masturbation? Changing basic values takes generations, and from a historical perspective, masturbation has been taboo.
A history of taboo
The word masturbation comes from the Latin words manus (hand) and stuprum (desecrate). Even well into the 20th century masturbation was thought of as shameful, harmful and abnormal.
The masturbator was portrayed as pale, weak and sickly. Shame is often born early in life and will hold us back even after the memories have gone.
When a child learns to walk, he or she is cheered on by adults. Masturbation, on the other hand, is treated with silence and feelings of insecurity, and sometimes even harsh words.
Still taboo
A lot of people who don’t have a partner feel that they are failures when they have to masturbate to get satisfaction. Those who have a partner may be ashamed and keep masturbation to themselves. It’s important to be able to tell your partner how you feel and think, rather than being alone with this kind of secret. Someone who finds out that their partner is masturbating might feel inadequate or unattractive, and turn the situation into thinking that they’re not enough as their partner masturbates.
The truth is that the desire for masturbation is not necessarily related to bad sex with your partner. In fact research has shown that people who masturbate are more satisfied with their partner sex, and with sex in general.
A lot of men enjoy using the vibrators from Belladot. Belladot Bertil is a vibrating penis-ring that enhances and prolongs your erection. As a bonus it has a small ball that can be turned towards the testicles or towards your partner’s clitoris.
A lot of people wonder how often it’s normal to masturbate. My reply is, as often as you feel a desire to do so. If masturbation becomes compulsive or an obstacle in your everyday life, you might want to seek help; the masturbation is not a problem, but the compulsiveness is. It shouldn’t hurt to masturbate, nor should it injure your genitals or intimate areas. Lubrication enhances the pleasure and reduces friction and tearing.
Belladot has both water-based and silicone lubricants, with or without scent. All of them are safe to use with a condom.
If you are having trouble achieving orgasm with a partner, masturbation and exploring your own sexuality can be helpful.
Read more under the topics “Difficulty achieving orgasm?” and ”Libido and sensuality”.
Orgasmera mera is an informative book by Ylva Franzén which I bought directly from the author during my sexologist training. It translates literally as ‘Orgasm More’, and is currently available in Swedish only. I asked her to sign it and she wrote, “Many beautiful orgasms, Sylvia!” And now, I wish you the same!